The main theme of Stoicism is the Dichotomy Of Control.
When I first heard of this “Dichotomy Of Control” I was instantly attracted. I thought this philosophy was going to give me some sort of insight into MORE control.
But, I was quickly let down because I found out that this is about LESS control, if anything.
The Dichotomy Of Control in a nutshell is:
Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing. (Enchiridion 1)
You see, anything “tangible” in this world is not under our control. What we do control is our mind, especially our judgement of circumstances.
This is something I am made terribly aware of when my ego gets out of control and gets splashed by tall cup of reality.
It is best to be indifferent to our circumstances.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t care. We should take care in everything we do, in everyone we encounter, in all of our work but we should also be totally ok with whatever fate dishes us.
When a problem arises from circumstance, our first instinct is to worry. But worry does nothing for us.
Trust me. Worry does nothing for you.
We should take a step back. Look at things from a logical perspective to ask ourselves.
“What can I do about this?”
Wait can I even do anything about this?
If the answer is yes to the second question then we should not worry, we should take action.
If the answer is no to the second question then we should not worry, we should take a nap.
Either way, we good.
Either way, we good, we’ll be ight.